實際上也是一個新型的社會流行的體現(xiàn)：人們漸漸認識女權(quán)主義，一個時代里的新潮。我能理解媽媽，她智慧，但不想給兒子灌輸女權(quán)思想，overthinking有時會毒害一個人享受生活的能力，女權(quán)主義也有屬于它的虛偽。而且她也代表來自“舊時代”面對“新思想”的碰撞與磨合，不管接受與否，anything always changing! 20世紀的人們縱情玩樂，是對空虛的抵抗，但在party里只更顯得孤獨，過度依賴于外在刺激，用物質(zhì)填滿自己。這也是消費主義時代下的影響，個人對心靈空虛的找尋。感覺這個電影里值得探尋的還有很多，很棒的電影??！

（電影一半有感寫下這段感悟，在電影臨近結(jié)束時被劇中角色從口中說出，這種感覺好棒??！有種和作者有心靈的connection的感覺?。?/p>

二十世紀的女性，更多機會，自由，不確定性。到底什么shape我們？不知道！

I think I’m still finding something! Maybe love, maybe myself! Maybe the finding will through my whole life never been ended, just like the mom did! No matter what, I’m alive!

20世紀女人

這是一部給過去的獻禮。

整部電影都是在自述和敘述別人中進行，母親描述兒子，兒子描述朱莉……大量對白建立起旁觀者第三視野的感覺。

母親

母親作為房東，是聯(lián)系起整個故事的紐帶。母親的角色也是二十世紀末期大多數(shù)中年人的縮影。他們僥幸沒經(jīng)歷二戰(zhàn)，但從貧困廢墟下成長，渴望開拓與前進，年輕時也曾追逐潮流，但面對自1960年代末開始盛行的反戰(zhàn)、同性、搖滾朋克這一系列新勢力力不從心，甚至大多數(shù)持抵制態(tài)度。1979年，母親55歲，年輕的她抽煙是為了追逐潮流，而當她面對兒子因為“dumb”/“stupid”不負責的把戲差點送命時，激烈的反對。兒子的理由是“follow others”，母親卻說你應該有自己的意識，知道什么是明智的。就像所有的家長一樣，他們對著鏡子只能看見成年的自己，卻看不見年歲的軌跡，他們用經(jīng)驗教訓孩子，卻忘了年輕時候自己一樣不負責。

這個開篇細小的矛盾其實已經(jīng)寫明了母親這個角色所具有的矛盾性：自身限于歲月的經(jīng)驗歷練，但內(nèi)心深處保有對新潮的追逐。

就像母親突然提議一起去酒吧玩，但杯盞過后，依然能冷靜的對威廉說，你要對你的吻負責，你不認真愛一個人為何要和她上床？

母親這個形象，比起生活中的大多數(shù)家長，是積極的。她努力去了解兒子，在Talking Heads和Black Flag里機械的搖頭晃腦，她知道對兒子擅自離家看演出最好的回應是說：下次再這樣，要提前告訴我，這樣我就不會多做晚飯了。很智慧的理由，不輕不重的責備，暗暗告誡兒子你不僅是個個人，也要對家庭負責。

除了內(nèi)在的矛盾，母親的外在形象也是矛盾的，孤僻寂寞但對人有信任。在時代背景（卡特發(fā)布信任危機講話）下，母親在片頭就會邀請救火的消防隊員來家吃飯，但在兒子的敘事中，母親是孤獨的，找不到愛的。因為她不溝通，不主動尋求需要。

最終母親沒有活到千禧年，但母親最終找到了伴侶陪她直至死去。像是上一代的人，最后妥協(xié)，然而還是無法抑制時代的腳步。

Jamie，Abbie and Julie

這三個角色互相影響，混合成時代的縮影。Abbie是新一代的嬉皮士，穿闊腿褲與印著Lou Reed的襯衫，染著紅頭發(fā)，看起來瀟灑，但內(nèi)心脆弱敏感。她相信女權(quán)，會在飯桌上公然討論月經(jīng)。但她也相信婚姻與家庭，就算養(yǎng)的鳥也是一夫一妻。她聽搖滾，是男孩審美和性意識的啟蒙，代表了時代的前鋒，充滿希望但又迷茫。Julie是男孩的感情世界，雖然她不希望成為男孩的母親，但她某種意義上是這樣的存在。她教男孩抽煙，帶他真正意識到愛，性與青春。

除了時代縮影以外，Abbie與Julie的設定是很奇妙的存在。她們既因為母親的囑托，富有引領(lǐng)Jamie成長的責任，這使她們或多或少有了家長式的代入。另一方面，她們因為理解Jamie，也是他的一部分。所以當母親責問Abbie不應該教男孩女權(quán)，母親發(fā)現(xiàn)Julie與男孩同眠的車內(nèi)對話時，其實是母親與作為男孩一部分的角色的對話。

Julie和Abbie的存在使兩個時代理解與交融。

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看這部片子，尤其是三個女主的設定，總是讓我想起《時時刻刻》。雖然《時時刻刻》是更加意識流，精神層面的世代交替，是這部電影無法比的。但是這部電影總有或多或少時時刻刻的影子，導演的構(gòu)圖野心也是很大，影片里涵蓋了阿甘正傳式的歷史插入，也有各種經(jīng)典曲調(diào)與名作截取。

影片有很多閃光的細節(jié)，比如母親與男孩的關(guān)系，最喜歡一句臺詞，母親對Abbie說“You get to see him out in the world as a person. I never will.” 一句話講出了母親這個身份的限制與愛。但總體來講，影片過于瑣碎，還達不到時時刻刻這樣成功的等級。

一些臺詞：

Don't need a man to raise a man?

You never tell me what you are going to do. You just do it.

Sex is a commitment. Once you are there, you can't go back to holding hands.

Of all the misconceptions about love, the most powerful and persuasive is the belief that falling in love is love.

Women's sexuality, defined by men to benefit men, has been downgraded and perverted, repressed and channeled.

Next time, a dude tells you a sex story. You just have to agree with everything he says and acts like it's right. Even if it's not, because they don't wanna be contradicted. They just wanna to live in their fantasy land.

Whatever you think your life is going to be like, just know, it's not going to be anything like that.

You get to see him out in the world as a person. I never will.

So you think you know me better because you read that.

Pretty music is used to cover up how unfair and corrupt society is.

It's like they have got all these feelings. And they don't have any skills and they don't need any skills, because it's really interesting. What happens when your passion is bigger than the tools that you have to deal with it. It creates this energy. This rock. Is this great?

時代是所有人的時代，個人只是洪流里的微小構(gòu)成，這一刻，歐亞大陸的一邊在腥風血雨，我在另一邊吃穿住行悉如往常；可時代留在每個人身上的印記又太深刻了，沒有疫情的日子像是一場回不去的夢，戰(zhàn)爭的延宕與埋在鄰里的結(jié)盟危機也告誡著自己對出國與否的未來規(guī)劃要未雨綢繆，畢竟，時代是所有人的時代，是我無法因為悲劇會產(chǎn)生就可以任性逃走的時代。

12:49 "you know having your heart broken is a tremendous way to learn about the world."

13:02 “Do you think you‘re happy？Like...as happy as you thought you'd be when you were at my age.” ——"Seriously? you don't ask people question like that." ——"You're my mom." ——"Hahahah... Especially your mom. Look, wondering if you're happy is a great shortcut to just being depressed."

14:23 "Pretty music is used to hide how unfair and corrupt society is." ——"Ok,so they are not very good. And they know that, right?" ——"It's like that they got all the feelings. And they don't have any skill. And they don't want skill because it's interesting. What happens when your passion is bigger than the tools you have to deal with it? It creates this energy. This, this...this is rock. Isn't great?"

17:44 "I mean everyone is doing it." ——"So you just went along with it." ——"It looked fun." ——"That's just dumb. Why would you do something so stupid? Just following along?"

18:20 "You scared the hell out of me. Why did you hurt yourself like that?" ——"Why do you smoke yourself to death?" ——”Why are you fine being sad and alone?“

19:40 "I think history has been tough on men. I mean that they can't be what they were. And they can't figure out what's next." ——"What're we talking about?" ——”Men?" ——”I think history and men. I mean who're your heros nowadays? A brunch of privileged drug addicts?"

24:58 ”I think that Jamie's energy is very... unstable“ ——”Well, you're right. Then there's an energy crisis, maybe that plays into someway.“

36:26 "Of all the misconception of love, the most powerful and persuasive is the bielf that falling in love is love. Or at least one of the manifestion of love. Love is supposed to be a feeling that you feel. People say they're falling in love but they're not actually falling in love. It's a fake connection that you feel with someone. And marriage should never happen."少有人走的路

42:28 "You will get through this. You will do it. This is the really hard part. And then what happens is there is hard part and then it gets better, and then it gets hard again, but never mind. ”

47:32 "This is just my opinion. I think being strong is the most important quality. It's not being vulnerable. It's not being sensitive. It's not even...Honestly, it's not even being happy. It's about strength. And your durability against the other emotions."

48:27 “There are bunch of things, that I think my life would have been better if they were have been around when I was a teenager. So I'm hoping, that if you listen to them ,now, you will be happier and more realized person than I could ever hope to be.“

54:00 "My mother called it compartmentalization. Apparently, I do it a lot."

1:08:44 "How are you dealing with everything?” ——"Whatever you think your life going to be like, just konw, it's going to be anything like that."

1:24:04 I am gregarious and interested in others and I think intelligence. All I ask is to get to konw people and to have them interested in konwing me. I doubt whether I would marry again and live that close to another individual. But I remain invisible. Don't pretent for a minute, as you look at me that I am not as live as you are and I do not suffer from the category to which you are forcing me.

1:27:46 “There is a growing disrespect for government. The schools, the news media, and all the institutions. This is not a message of happiness or reassurance. But it is the truth and it is a warning. It is a crisis of confidence. What we can see in the crisis in the growing doubt of the meaning of our own lives and in the loss of unity and purpose for our nation. Too many of us now tend to worship, self indulgence and consumption. But we have discovered that owning things and consuming things does not satisfy our longing for meaning. We are always believe that we are a part of great movement, of humanity itself , involved for the sesearch for freedom. We are at a turning point of our history, the path leads to fragmentation and self-interest, down that road lies a mistaken idea of freedom. It is a certain route to failure.”1975.7.15 吉米卡特 信任危機演講

1:46:02 "Were you and dad ever in love?" ——"Sure... or maybe I was just I thought it is supposed to be in love. Or I was scared I'd never be in love. So I just pick the best solution at that time."

不得不說媽媽還挺酷的，上飛行學校，買IBM、Xerox、GM的股票，科技先鋒本鋒。