「Sometimes when you can't physically escape from a situation where you feel frightened or threatened... you find a way to remove or distance yourself psychologically. It's a way of protecting yourself.」


「We can't control what happens to us or our loved ones. People get hurt. There's only so much we can do to protect ourselves, our children. The only thing we can do is we can be there for each other when we do fall down, to pick each other up.」


「Why are you down here when you should be up there with her? You think finding this guy is more important that it's gonna make her better?」



「How could you do that to me?
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I'm really sorry.
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You're sorry? Gee, Dad, thanks. That mskes everything so much better.
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I lost my temper. I don't know what else to say. I'm sorry.
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Don't you get it? There's nothing anybody can say. My life is ruined.
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No, it's not ruined. We're going through a tough time but your life's not ruined.
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We're going through a tough time? We didn't get raped. We're not the laughingstock of New Trier. I am! I got raped. Not you!
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I know that.
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Nothing's ever gonna be the same. I know that. But, please, can you please stop reminding me of it every second?」



「You were fearless. You were amazing. Came in with me and almost immediately started laughing and playing and splashing around. You just had this confidence. It wasn't just swimming, you just had this trust in things, people, the world. It was who you were. No fear. God, I loved that. I was so proud of it. I envied it. And I was so afraid that you'd lose it as you grew up, that confidence, that faith, but you didn't. And then I failed you. It was my job to make sure you didn't lose it, to keep you safe. What am I if I can't protect you? And to see you lose that confidence, to see you question yourself, that the idea would even occur to you to want to hurt yourself, or for you to think for one minute that you weren't as beautiful. I don't know if you can ever forgive me, Annie. I really don't know if you should, but I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I love you so much.」

ross大哥的導(dǎo)演作品，不錯，在于他沒有把這個故事拍成老套的調(diào)查性事件，而是聚焦于一個家庭，更準備的說是一對父女面對未成年人性侵犯之后的動作和心理變遷！
我最喜歡的兩段臺詞，一是歐文找到心理醫(yī)生，說他保護不了女兒，醫(yī)生對他說，你不可能保護她一輩子，你總有不在她身邊的時候，作為愛她的人，你需要做的只是在她需要你的時候在她的身邊支持她就夠了！還有就是最后歐文和女兒的那段對話，他對女人說，你有著那份自信和信任，對身邊的人和事物發(fā)自心底的信任，這份信任讓我驕傲，甚至讓我嫉妒，讓你在今后的人生中保持那份信任和自信是我一個父親的責(zé)任，如果我連這點都保護不了你了，我還算什么。如果有一天，哪怕一秒，你懷疑自己是否漂亮----------大哭！
就是上面的這兩段解釋了父親看似過激的行為的內(nèi)心想法，很好，很深入人心！
有人說女兒是不是太蠢了等等的話，首先她還是孩子，想想我們自己吧，十四五歲的時候誰不會做sb的事情，自以為愛上了一個欣賞自己的老男人可以說在普通不過了，后面女兒看到了其他受害者之后在心理醫(yī)生那邊的哭泣難道不能哭到大家的心里去么！
但這部電影也不是完美的，我覺得那個變態(tài)的臺詞就寫得不夠好，不能讓人感到不可抗拒，還有前半部的調(diào)子可以更歡快一點，這樣才會讓后面的支離破碎更深入人心！

    網(wǎng)絡(luò)時代的少女們，面臨著道貌岸然的色狼們的覬覦，這是讓每一位父母都惴惴不安的，尤其是當女兒受到侵犯，父母的傷心、擔(dān)憂、憤懣，本片都真實呈現(xiàn)出來了，還有這個階段女孩子們的普遍心理反應(yīng)，面對騙子的心理感受和變化，對愛情懵懵懂懂的向往，得知被欺騙后的憤恨、無助，都很到位。
     在現(xiàn)實中，如何去理解半大不大的孩子們，如何去信任她們，這部電影也給了我們很好的參考。那位心理醫(yī)生起到了非常重要的作用，否則，這個女孩真可能做出難以預(yù)料的事。
     很能理解這里父親的反應(yīng)，表演很到位，女兒演的尤其出色，一開始還覺得有些木木的，但隨著劇情發(fā)展，她的表演張力十足，讓人感同身受。
     結(jié)尾那段鏡頭出乎意料，還有片尾曲，很動聽----這部電影不錯。

一部很具現(xiàn)實意義的好電影，導(dǎo)演客觀的陳述了故事，電影里沒有太多參雜自己的感情色彩，把這樣一個活生生的故事展現(xiàn)在觀眾眼前，相信不同的人有不同的看法；每個人在一生中不同階段都會扮演不同的角色，為人子女的看了這部電影會對父母有更多的理解和釋然，為什么父母們總是不理解自己；為人父母的看了這部電影會引發(fā)更多的思考，如何更好的保護好她們才不會受傷害，如何相處才能讓孩子們遇到危險會及時相告？誠然善有善報，惡有惡果，但顯然，導(dǎo)演想表達的不是這些，如果這樣，這部片子就太平庸了，難道在現(xiàn)實世界里所有的不公真的能伸冤么？即便你抓住了一個罪犯，還會有另一個，在現(xiàn)今世界，網(wǎng)絡(luò)世界虛虛實實，如何能好好保護好自身比抓住罪犯更有意義，想象是美好的但現(xiàn)實總是殘酷的，作為一個父親，我能深深的體會到威爾面對自己女兒被傷的那種歇斯底里，悔恨自己沒有保護好女兒，盡到一個做父親的責(zé)任，也茫然于孩子們對童真信任的喪失，也惆悵于如何正確的帶領(lǐng)孩子面對這些，也或者如何能更好的保護好孩子避免被人傷害，總以為做好自己比告誡他人更為重要，不希望自己的孩子“童真不在，信任全無”，會盡力讓家庭溫情依舊，重樹信任比懲罰壞人是不是更加現(xiàn)實？

(Dad to his daughter)"You remember the first time you went in the pool? ... You probably don't. You were two. Peter was scared to death the first time he went in. He screamed and cried so much. He didn't stop...Not you. You were fearless... You were amazing. You came in with me and almost immediately started laughing...and playing and splashing around. You just had this confidence. It wasn't just the pool...you just had this---trust--- in things, people, and the world.It was who you are. No fear...God I loved it. I was so proud of you... I envied it. And I was so afraid that you'd lose it as you grew up. That confidence. That faith. But you didn't. And then I failed you... It was my job to make sure you didn't lose it. To keep you safe. What am I if I can't protect you? And to see you lose that confidence, to see you question yourself. That the idea would even occur to you , to want to hurt yourself. Or for you to think for one minute, that you weren’t as beautiful.”

女孩子不管多少歲都是一個需要信任和理解的生物，她就算天生強大獨立，內(nèi)心也只會更柔軟更渴望被關(guān)愛和懂得。安妮只是恰好信任錯了人，直到后來她還一心擔(dān)心壞人希望他沒事兒。愛，那么簡單嗎小安妮。不過不管事后事前父母怎樣處理的，很慶幸她有一對真正愛她的父母，父親最后這段話讓女孩子體會到自己是被愛的。她其實只不過渴求溫暖和被愛。

在Lens上我看到有一期專門訪問戀童這類人，有的人完全構(gòu)不成犯罪也不會涉及道德。其實我覺得每一種人生都不容易，我們過了自己的所以無法去理解別人的。他們有百分之七十兒童時期有過陰影所以成年后會有這種犯罪的怪癖，是否應(yīng)該反思社會和家庭體制做得到不到位。我只能以一個旁觀者的角度客觀地評價，我唯一能做的就是給身邊的人最多的溫暖和關(guān)愛。

安妮，祝你幸福。

    從一個性侵案例作為切入點講述了一個相互信任的故事，比較寫實，并未走孤膽暴力復(fù)仇的俗套路線，但也沒有能懲戒壞人，這應(yīng)該就是現(xiàn)實世界吧，即使遭受苦難，即使不完美，還是要繼續(xù)生活下去。
    看似美好的家庭，其實已經(jīng)存在隱患，安妮一直受到家庭過多保護，她從小對外界就懷有較強的信任感，對自身也就充滿自信。處于青春期成長過程中的她，在外界女同學(xué)的影響和自身本能的驅(qū)使，對性世界有著好奇和朦朧之感，而女主和家人缺乏真正的交流（雙方都有責(zé)任），無法獲得理解和指引，與其說她不認同學(xué)校的主流群體，還不如說在學(xué)校得不到主流認同，在大家都有男女交往時，她卻連個男友都沒有一切，她需要得到認同，但事情卻不是，一向自信的她開始對自身產(chǎn)生疑惑，而在騙子查理網(wǎng)聊中得到了認可，因此才會在網(wǎng)聊中被一騙再騙，明知被騙也心甘情愿。
    如果說性侵事件是痛苦的，那么之后的余波則是更為痛苦的。很多人是帶有有色眼鏡來看的，包括安妮父親也對自己女兒產(chǎn)生了信任危機，沉迷于報仇的怒火中不能自拔，忽略了女兒的感受。而安妮對自身的盲目自信或者說存在著一種自我欺騙和麻痹在環(huán)境、家人和事實逐步發(fā)展下一步步走向崩潰，這個家庭都在黑暗的漩渦里越陷越深。最后，父女都重新審視了自己，之間重拾信任。
    當傷害已經(jīng)發(fā)生，只有相互信任和扶持，我們走出黑暗，這應(yīng)該也是影片的主旨。
    PS:對于一個未成年的女孩被性侵事件的發(fā)展過程，還是感覺有些別扭，因為這個過程不是突發(fā)，而是明顯的誘騙，安妮即使受到保護也不可能生活在真空中，導(dǎo)演還是有刻意的痕跡吧。